Keeping the Faith in College: Advice for Students

A 2013 Barna survey shows nearly 6 in 10 (59%) of young people with active Christian backgrounds walk away from their faith or the church at some point in their first decade of adult life.

This article is based on content from ‘How to Stay Christian in College’ by J. Budziszewski.

High school graduation … check. Freshman orientation … check.

It’s time for college—your biggest adventure yet. But have you thought about the spiritual challenges you might face?

Even when you’re smart enough to avoid risky situations, Christian students often have their faith tested during college in ways they haven’t considered.

In his candid book How to Stay Christian in College, author J. Budziszewski writes, “From the moment students set foot on the contemporary campus, their Christian convictions and discipline are assaulted.”

Understanding this hidden spiritual darkness can help students remain on course and even increase their faith exponentially over the next four years. Here’s how you can be prepared.

>> Anxious about college? Read Billy Graham’s advice.

Get Social—In Person

Leaving home and living on your own means it’s up to you to decide how to manage your time and who you spend it with. It’s important to be intentional about making good friendships.

“There’s no such thing as a solitary Christian. If you go into the world alone, you’ll be swallowed,” Budziszewski writes.

Try these tips for finding Christian community in college:

“Most students intend to stay with their faith but they’re surprised at what happens to them,” explained John Decker, director of partnerships for Campus Ministry Link. “Suddenly, they’re not surrounded by Christians, and their roommate comes in and invites them to a party.

“They start bonding with these people just because of the culture shock of college,” Decker continued. “It’s human nature to have this high need for friends, and they bond with the wrong people.”

>> ‘Why can’t I just have a good time in college?’ Read Billy Graham’s Answer.

Try several different organizations if you need to, and don’t worry if it takes awhile to fit in, Budziszewski writes. Students may not be comfortable on their first or second visit but the more they participate, the quicker they’ll feel at home.

If students don’t click with everyone at first, that’s OK. It’s normal to like some personalities more than others.

  • Take on a leadership role. It’s a great way to meet people and use your passion for Christ to help them grow.
  • Attend a summer project. Choose a short-term mission trip or one that’ll keep you traveling around a couple months. Stay in the U.S. or go abroad. Serve God and experience new places with like-minded friends.
  • Find a ‘real’ church. It’s important to attend church in addition to joining a campus organization. Ask older students in your group for suggestions, and make plans to go with a friend. Some churches may offer a shuttle from campus.

Knowledge & Politics

This milestone of turning 18 often comes with a sense of self-discovery or a desire to express your ideas and beliefs.

But look out.

“Colleges and universities are magnets for extreme beliefs, ideologies and cults,” writes Budziszewski.

Some students protest or support a cause without fully understanding the issue or politics involved.

About his own college experience, Budziszewski writes, “I had my own ideas about redeeming the world, and my politics became a kind of substitute religion.”

If Doubt Creeps In

In conversations with friends or perhaps in class, be prepared to hear people make blanket statements, such as: “Christianity is judgmental and intolerant,” “The Bible is just mythology,” or “Everyone must find his own truth.”

>> ‘If Christianity is true, why doesn’t everyone believe?’ Billy Graham’s response.

A professor himself, Budziszewski warns that professors might patronize Christianity or imply the Christian faith is historically inaccurate.

In response, ask your professor to explain his or her statement. Don’t be afraid to respond, but be respectful and, most of all, be confident in what you know to be true.

Above All

Keep up your daily spiritual routine. Start your day with God. Spend time in prayer and study God’s Word between classes or whenever you can.

“College may be a turning point in your walk with God—a time when your relationship with Christ either deepens or weakens,” explains Budziszewski.

A person can be committed to a personal relationship with Christ but they also shouldn’t go through college alone.

“Fellowship is necessary to your relationship with Christ. It’s also the best place to form rewarding friendships and find a suitable person to marry,” he writes.

“Spending time with Christian friends makes the greatest difference.”

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J. Budziszewski is a professor of government and philosophy at the University of Texas at Austin, speaker and has authored over a dozen books. As a Christian who lost his faith in college—then eventually rediscovered God—he knows firsthand how students lose their way.

FATHERS AND MOTHETRS LOVE

HAPPY FATHERS DAY

Fathers are thinking, what are they thinking about? They are thinking about how to raise their family to become a successful one in a Godly way, they are thinking of how to become the family’s pillar, they are thinking of how to raise their children to become great in a Godly way , they are thinking of how to give support to the extended family and also to other people. They are always thinking of how to make their woman to be the most nicest and beautiest woman ever.
You have taken responsibility to fulfill these things in our very eyes. You are a great father indeed.
It is said that a man’s honor is the sum total of three things; your office, your functionn and your personality. And in these three things, you are the best, you are exceptional. Your love and care has made me to be creative enough to come out with something better.
When they ask; who is the best father in our generation ,it is your name I will call. Your name will continue be on my lips, in my heart and in my mind.
I ask God almighty to add life to your age and renew your strenght for greater hieght. May God give you the eye of an eagle so that you can see far and the strenght of a lion to pull down strong holds. I pray that wisdom, knowledge, decernment, understanding, insight and foresight should be given to you for greater achievement.
May you be entrenched in all the things that you do for the glory of God. HAPPY FATHERS DAY

FATHERS AND MOTHERS LOVE

One who loves till you close your eyes, is a Mother.
One who loves without an expression in the eyes, is a Father.

Mother – Introduces you to the world.
Father – Introduces the world to you.

Mother : Gives you life
Father : Gives you living

Mother : Makes sure you are not starving.
Father : Makes sure you know the value of starving

Mother : Personifies Care
Father: Personifies Responsibility

Mother : Protects you from a fall
Father : Teaches you to get up from a fall.

Mother : Teaches you walking.
Father : Teaches you walk of life

Mother : Teaches from her own experiences.
Father : Teaches you to learn from your own experiences.

Mother : Reflects Ideology
Father : Reflects Reality

Mother’s love is known to you since birth.
Father’s love is known when you become a Father.

Enjoy what your father says.
Keep loving your mother.

This is natural division of labour

Happy Fathers Day to all responsible fathers and would be responsible fathers here

10 Reasons Not to Have Sex Outside of Marriage

What Does the Bible Say About Sex Outside of Marriage?

Examples of couples engaging in extra-marital sex are all around us. There’s no way to avoid it—today’s culture fills our minds with hundreds of reasons to just go ahead and have sex outside of marriage.

But as Christians, we don’t want to follow everyone else. We want to follow Christ and know what the Bible says about sex before marriage.

10 GOOD REASONS NOT TO HAVE SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE

REASON #1 – GOD TELLS US NOT TO HAVE SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE

In the seventh of God’s Ten Commandments, he instructs us not to have sex with anyone other than our spouse.

It’s clear that God forbids sex outside of marriage. When we obey God, he is pleased. He honors our obedience by blessing us.

Deuteronomy 28:1-3
If you fully obey the LORD your God … [he] will set you high above all the nations on earth. All these blessings will come upon you and accompany you if you obey the LORD your God … (NIV)

God has a good reason for giving us this command. First and foremost, he knows what’s best for us. When we obey him, we trust God to look out for our best interests.

REASON #2 – THE EXCLUSIVE BLESSING OF THE WEDDING NIGHT

There’s something special about a couple’s first time. In this physical act, the two become one flesh. Yet sex represents more than just physical oneness—a spiritual union takes place. God planned for this exclusive experience of discovery and pleasure to happen only within the intimacy of marriage. If we don’t wait, we miss out on a unique blessing from God.

1 Corinthians 6:16
Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, “The two become one.” Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever—the kind of sex that can never “become one.” (The Message)

REASON #3 – BE SPIRITUALLY HEALTHIER

If we live as carnal Christians, we’ll seek to gratify the desires of the flesh and please ourselves. The Bible says we cannot please God if we live this way. We’ll be miserable under the weight of our sin. As we feed our fleshly desires, our spirit will grow weak and our relationship with God will be destroyed. Complacency over sin leads to worse sin, and eventually, spiritual death.

Romans 8:8,13
Those controlled by the sinful nature cannot please God. For if you live according to the sinful nature, you will die; but if by the Spirit you put to death the misdeeds of the body, you will live … (NIV)

REASON #4 – BE PHYSICALLY HEALTHIER

This is a no-brainer. If we refrain from sex outside of marriage, we will be protected from the risk of sexually transmitted diseases.

1 Corinthians 6:18
Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. (NLT)

REASON #5 – BE EMOTIONALLY HEALTHIER

One reason God tells us to keep the marriage bed pure relates to baggage. We carry baggage into our sexual relationships. Past memories, emotional scars, and unwanted mental images can defile our thoughts, making the marriage bed less than pure.

Certainly, God can forgive the past, but that doesn’t immediately free us from lingering mental and emotional baggage.

Hebrews 13:4
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. (NIV)

REASON #6 – CONSIDER YOUR PARTNER’S WELL-BEING

If we put concerns for our partner’s needs and spiritual well-being above our own, we’ll be compelled to wait for sex. We, like God, will want what’s best for them.

Philippians 2:3
Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; (NASB)

REASON #7 – WAITING IS A TEST OF TRUE LOVE

Love is patient. That’s as simple as it gets. We can discern the sincerity of our partner’s love by his or her willingness to wait.

1 Corinthians 13:4-5
Love is patient, love is kind … It is not rude, it is not self-seeking … (NIV)

REASON #8 – AVOID NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCES

There are consequences to sin. Its effects can be devastating. An unwanted pregnancy, a decision to have an abortion or place a child for adoption, broken relationships with family—these are just a few of the possible outcomes we could face when we have sex outside of marriage.

Consider the snowball effect of sin. And what if the relationship does not last? Hebrews 12:1 says that sin hinders our lives and easily entangles us. We are better off to avoid sin’s negative consequences.

REASON #9 – KEEP YOUR TESTIMONY INTACT

We don’t set a very good example of godly living when we disobey God. The Bible says in 1 Timothy 4:12 to “be an example to all believers in what you say, in the way you live, in your love, your faith, and your purity.” (NIV)

In Matthew 5:13 Jesus compares his followers to “salt” and “light” in the world. When we lose our Christian testimony, we no longer shine the light of Christ. We lose our “saltiness,” becoming flavorless and bland. We can no longer attract the world to Christ. Luke 14:34-35 puts it strongly, saying that salt without saltiness is worthless, not even fit for the manure pile.

REASON #10 – DON’T SETTLE FOR LESS

When we choose to have sex outside of marriage, we settle for less than God’s perfect will—for ourselves and our partner. We may live to regret it.

Here’s food for thought: If your partner wants sex before marriage, consider this a warning sign of his or her spiritual condition. If you are the one who wants sex before marriage, consider this an indicator of your own spiritual condition.

By Mary Fairchild

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